“The experience of separateness arouses anxiety; it is, indeed, the source of all anxiety. Being separate means being cut off, without any capacity to use my human powers. Hence to be separate means to be helpless, unable to grasp the world — things and people — actively; it means that the world can invade me without my ability to react.”
“The Art Of Loving”, Erich Fromm (1956)
My blogroll has changed substantially since I started back in November, 2006. I’ve never thought of the blogroll as a place where I should reciprocate or thank someone for putting me into theirs. I’ve always treated it as a place to store blogs I’ve thought important enough for me, and others, to read regularly.
The first serious blog I put in there was Clare’s “Orphans Of Dark And Rain“. Unfortunately several blogs I’ve blogrolled have disappeared over the past six months. Sisyphus’ Ledge, Queenminx, Puddlejumper and, most recently, Lucky Mud have all deleted their blogs. Then there are the people in my blogroll who have gone on permanent vacation, including Clare’s “Orphans”, as well as “depressionisms ★ neurogenesis”; “A Non Addicts Struggle With Alcoholism”, “Misneach“, “Puddlejumping“, “…What Was I Looking For?” and; “la tête ailleurs…” .
Some of the people who have killed their blogs over the past few months did so because they felt a new strategy in their recovery was needed. Personally I think it’s an overly drastic solution, but fair enough. But several others did so because they felt they weren’t part of a community. They were doing what they thought was necessary to become a part of something larger, because they believed being a part of a larger community would help in their recovery. But, for whatever reason, could never quite break through.
So this is the first of a two part post, and possibly the first in a kind of quarterly update on who’s who and doing what in my blogroll. Right now I want to highlight a few blogs which are very well written, updated regularly and have insights and commonalities I think need sharing…
First: Bryan… I’ve been reading Bryan’s “HiDef Entropy” blog almost since I started blogging. He recently made the crossover from Blogger to WordPress and is gradually making himself at home. He has experienced and worked through many of the difficulties facing Americans with mental illness. I really believe that I’ve learned from his writing, and that his recent move to WordPress will result in him finding the community he needs.
Second: Up & Down… aroundnaround has managed to build up a community of her own, and I see her comments on a few blogs I read regularly. But she has so much experience living and dealing with manic depression that I see her site, and her experiences, as being a rich resource for those of us looking for some, or someone’s, answers.
Third: sleepless in cologne… Bine has a great sense of humour and is a wonderful artist and has managed to gather a community around her blog. But her attitude towards living with a combination of Bipolar and ADD is something I think many of us with similar ailments can learn from.
Fourth: Le Blank… is a reasonably frequently updated diary blog written by someone coming to terms with what manic depression has done to her, and what she can do against the disease. Personally I think reading about other people’s similar experiences would help her, and that her experiences could help others. She’s a talented writer with a lot to say.
Thordora, from “Spin Me I Pulsate” recently posted about a drop in her blog stats. It was the responses, or some of them, that originally made me think about doing this… or, at least, they were the latest reminder of the reasons for some of the suicided-blogs in my blogroll. A few of the bloggers I thought were gone, gone, gone recently came back. Bipolar Mo has recently made his blog public again, and Spekkah, who runs “The truth ALWAYS hurts…” recently made his first post in almost two months.
I’m a big believer in community responsibility. And, in here, I believe we are somewhat responsible to each other. I’m always looking for blogs which can help me — and maybe help people who run through my sidebar — in our recovery, and I think our blogrolls can be the first line in that responsibility towards other people. At the same time maybe I owe it to the people in my blogroll to make sure they’re being properly represented.
I’ve got a few more thoughts on the subject, but I have to do a little research first. So, for now, consider this an introduction to some new blogs. So, please, visit and say hi.