We need help.

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We can’t afford to buy Evangeline a headstone. Not any time soon, anyway.

We priced stones last week and the second smallest costs $900. It’s a flat stone measuring 24″x12″x4″, it’ll have her full name, her birth date and a short quote. They’re kicking in a rose etching for free — Rose was her middle name. The only one smaller wouldn’t have room for her full name, and costs $600.

So… I’m asking for your help. At the moment, and for the foreseeable future, we can afford half the total cost. So I’m asking everyone I know if they / you can afford to donate between $25 and $100 to the cost of the stone.

In return for whatever you can donate I’m offering copies of my photos for your wall. I guess, basically, I’m selling photos and the money I receive will go towards the cost of Evangeline’s gravestone.

I know things are tight every where, so if you can’t, you can’t. I know we can’t. But if you can, any amount would help.

For what it’s worth, if there’s any extra money, it will be going to the Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO) Special Occasion Fund. CHEO is the hospital Evangeline would have spent the first few months of her life had she survived.

In order for this to work there is the small problem of addresses. I’m in the process of getting a PayPal account, it should be set up by early next week.

But, if you’re down for helping out, I’d be willing to exchange my address for a cheque or money order.

Just send me an email and we can set it all up. Thank you, from all of us.



Some of the photos I’m selling…







About Gabriel...

...diagnosed with manic depression when I was nineteen, for the next 14-years I lived without treatment or a recovery plan. I've been homeless, one time I graduated college, I've won awards for reporting on Internet privacy issues, and a weekly humour column. In 2002 I finally hit bottom and found help. It's now 2022, and I have an 8-year old son, and a 12-year old son... I’m usually about six feet tall, and I'm pretty sure I screwed up my book deal. I mostly blog at saltedlithium.com....
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20 Responses to We need help.

  1. Rhiannon says:

    I can give a little, not much as I’m on EI but something. Email me.

  2. Melanie says:

    Hello my dear friend,
    I would love to help. Please email me your mailing address and I will send a check for what I can. I cannot stress enough how sad I am for your loss. My mother passed away yesterday and I could not imagine how I would feel if we could not afford to lay her to rest in the way she has requested. Please let me know if there is anything else I can do to help you. You will always be in my thoughts, but I’m sure you know that. Xox

  3. G. I want to help. I am in the US, as you know. Would I have to send you Canadian money? How does that work with Paypal or with checks? Sorry to trouble you… Love, Clare

  4. i’m there with Clare.. please let me know how I can help, hon. But, in the US.

    • Gabriel... says:

      Hi Heather, and Clare… thanks for doing this. I’m working on setting up a PayPal account, but a cheque or money order would be most comfortable for me. Canadian banks are pretty user friendly, and the Canadian and American dollars are pretty much on par at the moment, so I don’t see a problem with anyone mailing a money order from an American bank / post office to me.

      I’ll send you both my address and you can decide whether to wait for the PayPal thing or just mail it out via the post office. Thanks again.

  5. irrhönan says:

    Hi – thanks for your message about the spam comments and how to go about it. I really appreciate it!

    • Gabriel... says:

      You’re welcome, I hope the link helped. I know how frustrating it can be to be wrongly accused of being spam. Plus, half of my favourite NHL team are Swedish, so we’re practically cousins, and family helps family.

      …whoops, I think you might actually be from Denmark, which, I think, makes us mortal enemies.

  6. markps2 says:

    I would like to contribute. Gabriel you have my email address. Please send me your land based mailing address in an email , so I can send something.

  7. Gabriel, Zoom and I would also like to help out. Please send me your mailing address.

  8. Jill Townsend says:

    I’d like to help too – please send your address. I’m Jill, read your blog and am so very sorry about your beloved little girl. I’m in the US so assume I can send regular US monies?

  9. petrona says:

    Hi G, I’m in Australia so would prefer to help out via paypal. Any chance you can update your post when your account is set up? I’ll keep an eye out for it.
    P x

  10. Gabriel... says:

    Hi. We’ve received a lot of very generous offers of support over the past few days, enough that I think I can say ‘mission accomplished’. I’ve responded to almost all of the emails, some of the offers I had to turn down because they were coming from people who are obviously in the same financial shape we are — which has been humbling… actually, this whole process has been humbling.

    We still don’t know how much money is coming, and we still haven’t actually received any, but we feel comfortable that we’ll be able to make up any shortfall.

    We’ve decided on two things…

    first: everyone who offered to help will be receiving at least one of my photos (yay you), and;

    second: we’re going to write out the names of everyone who offered to support us and, when it comes time to dig the hole and set the foundation for the grave marker, the list will be laid under the stone.

    So… thank you.

  11. chaoskaren says:

    I’d like to help. I sent you an email a few days ago… not sure you got it, but by the sounds of things you’re snowed under!

    • Gabriel... says:

      I got it, and thank you very much. I haven’t had a chance to respond because I’ve been ‘snowed under’ with life over the past few days. On Friday we found out my girlfriend’s parents (Mr. and Mrs. Psycho and Sociopath) had started selling / purging whatever stuff she had stored in their garage and shed over the years. They actually sold boxes of her oldest sons toys to my girlfriend’s ex-husband. So we organized a rescue mission for Monday morning before they had a chance to sell off the big stuff. It was just a… not nice weekend all around.

      So, I apologize (to you and anyone else I’ve left hanging) for being late, I’ll respond tonight, promise.

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  13. Finola says:

    I will gladly help and can send you a cheque. Please email me your address.

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