Sure A Rose May Smell Just As Sweet But Call It Herpes des Quatre Saisons And People Will Never Plant Them Again

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My name is officially changed… it took two years when it should have taken six weeks, but the last piece of my father’s identity has been removed from my wallet.

My new birth certificate came in the mail yesterday. It’s purple. It has the name I was born with in the “old” column and the one I’ve chosen to replace it with in the “new” column.

I started the process in April, 2006, by getting the application from my local MPP. The easy part was choosing the replacement name because I’ve actually been using my mom’s maiden name since a year after the divorce in 1978, because in Canada, as long as you’re not trying to commit fraud, you can actually use whatever name you want.

So since I was about nine I’ve had two different names. Until now my Official name, the one on my original birth certificate, went like this… Gabriel, then my father’s Given Name followed by his Family Name. So Gabriel Father Father.

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Sleep Deprivation And The 1918 Influenza Pandemic

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I’ve been exhausted all week. It feels almost like I assume a relapse would feel, like if I went a month without the Lithium. Or without the Seroquel. The physical and mental toll from the “relapse” has reminded me of a few things…

I still have crystal clear memories of how frustrating it was trying to sleep when I was working. Like how for every hour I lay in bed replaying the whole day in my head I’d get maybe forty-five minutes of sleep that felt like I was awake the whole time. Then the alarm would go off and I’d spend the next four hours banging on the snooze button and getting twenty minutes of sleep between hits.

This week I’ve woken every hour, nearly exactly on the hour. I’ve been falling to sleep just fine, but once I’m down and I start to dream something disturbing happens in the dream that wakes me up.

I know I have sleep apnea. I brought all of this up with my psychiatrist today so he’s referring me to a sleep clinic in Ottawa. But if it was the sleep apnea keeping me from sleeping this week, why just this week? The last few people to sleep in my bed mentioned the not-breathing thing. And, apparently, I’ll occasionally reach out while I’m sleeping. Like I’m grabbing for someone, or shaking someone’s hand.

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Posted in Bipolar Disease, Bipolar Disorder, Clinical Depression, crazy people with no pants, Depression, Health, Living With Depression, Living With Manic Depression, Manic Depression, Ottawa | 15 Comments

If Clothes Make The Man Then I’m Crumpled Up Under The Bed And Haven’t Washed Since February


Me taking a break from trying on pants; May 31, 2008 – Photo by Me.

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My new shirts have “anti-microbial technology” built into them. They’ve been “treated to inhibit bacterial growth and protect from odor (sic).” I feel like someone who has been kicked forward in time five years. The last shirts I bought had no tags and I thought that was an incredible leap in shirt technology.

I just checked and the pants and underwear I also bought lack this technology advance. You’d think it’d be easier to license the anti-microbial innovations. One of the shirts I bought has buttons… like, all the way down the front buttons. I haven’t worn a shirt with buttons in years.

I know I have some very nice dress shirts somewhere, but other than once for the funeral of a friend of mine, I haven’t seen them since I moved back here in 2002. Previous to my moving to the Big City for work it was rare that I could find a button-up shirt that fit. It was also pretty rare that I needed one.

The problem I’ve always had with clothes is my size. I’m too big for normal stores, I’m not nearly big enough for the Big and Tall stores. I was in a hurry and bought what was marked as a “small” in one of those stores once and the shirt could have been a dress.

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Killing Time With Tech And The Things You Really Need To Know About Your Online Privacy

A little while ago someone asked me some questions about blogging. They were planning on starting a blog and because of where they worked they specifically wanted to know about how to keep a blog secret.

My response freaked them out and woke them up to the realities of the Internet because, in less than ten minutes and using only the tiny amount of information I had access to, I knew exactly where the person worked.

“Exactly” meaning not only state, city and county but also building. If I had pushed a little further I’m pretty sure I could have found their work schedule… I did that using only the information given to me by WordPress when people leave a comment on my blog, and a free Internet-based hit-counter called SiteMeter which told me the name of their Internet Service Provider.

There’s almost a wilful blindness when it comes to the Internet and the technology surrounding it. It’s amazing how so many people are dismissing the theft of their material, including photographs of their children, just to publish their thoughts in a forum consisting of total strangers.

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I’m Almost Invited To A Sort Of College Reunion Where I’d Get To Explain My Life Twenty Times In One Glorious Night

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I’ve never been to a reunion… I’ve never had a reason to, having dropped out of high school twice and having been asked to leave College before my first year was over. The head of my Journalism program told me he’d let me back in after I got my mental health taken care of, so I did graduate just with a different bunch of students than those I started with.

That first group, the graduates of the Journalism class I started with, are having an unofficial reunion towards the end of June. I was invited kind of backwards… in fact I actually haven’t been invited yet. There was an email sent out by the person hosting the party, but not to me; a follow-up email from a College friend requesting I be put on the list, then; a third email to me from another College friend letting me know what was going on.

Nothing is ever simple in my life.

I was initially excited at the idea of a reunion. Before I found out it was a house party I had this image in my head of a semi-formal event held in a hall or some kind of neutral arena where I could reminisce with the people I cared about and lost touch with.

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After Dinner Debriefing

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I’ve been trying to come up with something to write about my dinner with my parents last Saturday, but the only thing I can come up with is it was normal. It went normal anyway. It felt normal. Even though it was the first time since I moved out twenty years ago that they’ve come over for a meal, I wasn’t expecting anything dramatic or uncomfortable.

When they knocked on the door I got a little apprehensive, but once they walked in I calmed back down. I know they were nervous… obviously, since they had no idea what to expect. In their minds I’m sure the worst case scenario involved an open fire, some sticks and having to skin their own steak. Mom called in the afternoon to ask if they should bring a baguette… I told her if they wanted bread they should bring some because they’d be lucky if the chicken was cooked. So when they walked in the door they had a box of food with them.

The only other time I was nervous was when I was cleaning the apartment, because the only thing I did during the week to prepare was to set up an Ikea bookcase I bought a few months ago on Friday night, and buy the food on Friday afternoon.

So on Saturday morning, after playing GTA IV for ninety minutes, I swept and washed the floors, washed the dishes, organized and dusted my three bookcases, cleaned out my recycling corner, vacuumed my rugs, hung some photos, hosed down my bathroom, cleaned the stove and put a doily on my PlayStation… basically nine hours of work in seven hours of time.

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